what will you choose?

Ady

At first, you should find what you like, and then to consider whether to quit the job.  if you quit the job, what can you get?   Make you decision reasonably.

hirondelle

It's just a tough problem I face now. You may have a look at my latest blog "how can I act against my parents".

eternal

it's a question which depends on the reality.

what do u need most then? if u haven't had a better choice ,and just try. and if u r just lack of money, try it.

nevertheless, if u have found what u r really interested in and the reality just offers u a proper situation to chase your interest, i don't think u will abandon ur interest and just choose a job that caters to others' values

touringchina

eternal: it's a question which depends on the reality.

what do u need most then? if u haven't had a better choice ,and just try. and if u r just lack of money

The pitiful fate will always try to seek an opportunity to play a trick on you.the last thing they want to do is offering you a chance to work with your interest ,no matter what it may appear to be.

eternal

touringchina: The pitiful fate will always try to seek an opportunity to play a trick on you.the last thing they want to do is offering you a chance to work with yo

i think your view is a kind of fatalism, a little pessimistic.  i just believe that the fate is testing me to see whether i have the qualification to meet my interest and work with it.
well, if we hold a positive attitude towards everything that comes to our life , fight with our fate. then when we learn to be grateful for what our fate has  brought to us without complaining, we will find the opportunity on our own, not for the fate's award

kieren

I am in the same occasion, but i choose continue to work.
this is really makes me upset

touringchina

eternal: i think your view is a kind of fatalism, a little pessimistic.  i just believe that the fate is testing me to see whether i have the qualification to

you are absolutely a man with high self-confidence and esteem.
to be frank,i am not as brave as you,sth has been controling my mind since the very begining of my life,that's to say,i am in fear that commiting a suicide will be the first thought come into mind after suffering failures which are caused by pursuing life perfection.

touringchina

kieren: I am in the same occasion, but i choose continue to work.
this is really makes me upset

take it easy.

eternal

touringchina: you are absolutely a man with high self-confidence and esteem.
to be frank,i am not as brave as you,sth has been controling my mind since the v

say sorry to respond to u so late.

r u in fear of failures caused by pursuing life perfection?

well,personally i don't there is life perfection in reality. we r always struggling to pursue the better of ourselves,not the best.

from ur statement, i can see u r in a spiritual vicious circle that u have not enough confidence to fight with ur fate , of course u don't believe u have the ability to change the  actual living situation, even worse , u may consider the reality is just set as it is and cannot be changed! so u complain about some so-called ill things that has come to life, don't make some positive countermeasures,then ur life is becoming increasingly disordered,unhappy. as a result, ur courage and mettle i s becoming less and less.

the circle works again and again to let u unsatisfied with ur living

state.


perhaps my analysis is some sort of subjectivism, if u think it makes sense, i'm happy about it. if don't , just forget it.